Disclaimers

We Knew getting pregnant was going to be hard for us. No idea how hard that would actually be though.

This story is in no way shape or form meant to offend anyone. Our journey was just that, OUR experience and it will be told from our accounts as it is different for everyone in similar situations. This is our story and how it happened for us.

The Talk before Trying

Our Journey began while we were still living in Utah. Ben and I had always talked about starting a family, but our priority was getting him through graduation before we made any set plans for the future.

It was about December 2018 when we started having the “When should we start trying?” conversation in a more serious manner. Given my past medical history, we knew it wasn’t going to be easy. We didn’t exactly expect a “one and done” deal. So we decided it was best to get the ball rolling sooner rather than later. No puns intended.

The conversation started as more of a mental preparation for what was to come.

Benjamin was set to graduate in April that coming year (2019) so the plan was to start trying early February. We thought that if by some miracle, it happened right away, we’d at least have time to prepare. That gave us a pretty good timeline between graduation and potentially having a baby.

He had already gotten a job offer in Arizona and our plans were set to move back there that Summer. (I was raised in Arizona) We’d have a home, a steady income, and insurance! What else did we need to wait for right! So the plan was set!

Trying to Conceive

The time to start the process was here! We downloaded an app that would calculate my ovulation, I started eating more healthy, and tried to stay as calm as I possibly could. You know, all that stuff that you’re told to do while trying to conceive. We did it all!

Well, a few months went by and we didn’t get a positive.

Testing for pregnancy wasn’t on our monthly plan though. We were actively trying, but wanted it to be as easy on my mental health as possible. I suffer from anxiety and depression, so we knew it wouldn’t be the best tactic if we set ourselves up for disappointment month after month. Our plan was to keep trying, not over stress it, and wait for it to happen when it was meant to happen. BUT as always, that is a hell of a lot easier said than done.

So month after month, we kept trying.

Life Goes On

Graduation came and went. We moved to Arizona. Ben started his new job. Still. No. Positive.

This was proving to be hard, just as we had imagined it would be.

Throughout this entire time, we’d get the constant annoying questions and comments no one in this situation likes to hear. From “When are you planning on having kids?!” to “Are you pregnant yet?!” and “C’mon don’t be selfish! Everyone wants to see you two become parents already!” Same bro….. same. It wasn’t easy.

Mind you, we had never exactly been on birth control. If it were meant to be it would be, we strongly believed that! We never actively tried NOT to get pregnant. It just hadn’t happened yet.

Being parents was always a goal no matter what stage in life we were at. We just hadn’t actively TRIED until early February 2019. So even though I’d nervously laugh and say things like “haha not yet!” or “We’re just not ready!” I was secretly dying inside. I wanted nothing more.

Still Nothing

As time went by, the realization came that we’d probably have to look into other options. There were talks of adoption and possibly having to seek medical attention Both my medical history and my age were going to be factors we knew we’d have look into. We didn’t exactly know everything there was to know about the subject, we simply began the conversation of those possibilities.

The plan was to try for a year. If I still didn’t get pregnant, we’d seek help from a Dr. and go over further options.

WEEEELLLLLLL, February came and so did Covid 19.

There was a lot going on at the time so we never really got into that conversation we were meant to have.

Plans Change… Sort of

As March 2020 came and we saw how serious the virus was, we decided to stop trying. We thought it best to put those desires on hold and focus on what we had going on.

House hunting in the middle of a pandemic wasn’t easy and trying to have a baby on top of all of that chaos was a just a little too much for us to handle. So we stopped trying. We stopped worrying about it.

Or so we thought.

Remember I told y’all we’d never exactly been on birth control?

SURPRISE!

Well, Heavenly Father thought it’d be funny to send us a little gift RIGHT when we weren’t asking for it anymore. LOL

YEP! Just. Like. That.

I have zero medical explanation for you as to HOW this happened. I mean, besides the obvious of course. We’d definitely thought it’d be a lot harder. It wasn’t though. It just happened.

It happened when we least expected it and I couldn’t be happier. We couldn’t be happier.

How did we find out?

We found out early April this year when I was 5 weeks pregnant. We took a pregnancy test because I had missed my period. It wasn’t because I felt anything crazy or anything like that. I had no obvious symptoms yet.

This story doesn’t end here.

Stay tuned for the story on how Ben, my sister, and her husband all found out. Yes, it happened on the same day and you won’t want to miss it. Its hilarious! At least to me. LOL